The Braveheart's Better Half And Their Aspirations

 Army Wife – It is not my status, it is my Life Long Promise to Him.

Every individual soul is ambitious, so as women aspiration that breathes the desire every second and subsists with the hope to plant them in the society. The fair sex always finds it hard to understand and tend to make their counterparts weak and demeaned. As the debate continues for centuries together, it is women who adds colours to life and make their importance in the life of a man.

When a lady marries a soldier, she marries the entire fraternity, their culture, ethics and the battle-ground too. She holds the hand, vows to be together until death and also vows to share her husband with the nation. The novel environment always welcomes the new bride with the warm regimental traditional way which becomes a memory of a life time. For me, the welcoming was little new as they moved me to a Bengali family, didn’t show my husband for two days, followed with the traditional exchange of vegetable garlands with our hands cuffed, a safari in a vegetable vendor cycle, a punctured cycle ride, a hot seat question session, a warm introduction, ended with a beautifully decorated room for us with no curtains. Welcome ranges from tank to JCB which every army wife has experienced, though weird or warm, it is a story to be treasured.

The soldier’s wife enters a new life with aspirations, dreams, ambitions, hope, desires and what not. The Army environment is fortunately a cheering platform that kindles the hidden talent. People around her always lend a hand whenever she falls or fails to visualize what lies within her. There are places where, there is ample room for improvement and participation. On the other hand, in remote locations where it is hard to find even a phone signal, the same ambitions might seem to be shattered but the fire neither it evaporates nor it dies, stays in dormant state and tends to trial the hopeless. 

It is the duty of the soldier’s wife to stand with her husband in every step, to be brave at every point of life and cultivate the same to her fellow families as well. Being a soldier’s wife is a challenging task besides a daughter, mother, sister and a friend. Always ready to pack and move, never gets tired of house-warming as mine crossed 12 houses in 8 years of marriage, excluding the guest room stays. She wears no medals, no uniform, works selflessly, party’s hard, prays piously, portrays herself as a brave-heart but cries like a child where duty separates the family. When there is a gamble between togetherness and aspirations, the soldier’s wife sacrifices the later, as she values the same.

There is a deep belief which is rooted strongly within her - that aspirations can be achieved well with the supporting hands when you are true to yourself and the environment. Her feet follows the soldiers’ wherever duty calls, be it a rugged mountain terrain, or a snowy altitude, or a posh lively city, or a hilly chilly milieu because it’s where her heart stays. The environment, situations, moulds the women and provides ample freedom to stand alone at any given state of affairs. There are times where she has to swallow the pain alone, long for a hug, walk in solitude, but the hope doesn’t vanish off because a soldier’s wife falls apart, but tries to put together and takes pride in saying – I am a brave-heart’s better half.

                                                                                                           By a soldier's wife,

                                                                                                           Anitha S.