The Braveheart's Better Half And Their Aspirations

 Army Wife – It is not my status, it is my Life Long Promise to Him.

Every individual soul is ambitious, so as women aspiration that breathes the desire every second and subsists with the hope to plant them in the society. The fair sex always finds it hard to understand and tend to make their counterparts weak and demeaned. As the debate continues for centuries together, it is women who adds colours to life and make their importance in the life of a man.

When a lady marries a soldier, she marries the entire fraternity, their culture, ethics and the battle-ground too. She holds the hand, vows to be together until death and also vows to share her husband with the nation. The novel environment always welcomes the new bride with the warm regimental traditional way which becomes a memory of a life time. For me, the welcoming was little new as they moved me to a Bengali family, didn’t show my husband for two days, followed with the traditional exchange of vegetable garlands with our hands cuffed, a safari in a vegetable vendor cycle, a punctured cycle ride, a hot seat question session, a warm introduction, ended with a beautifully decorated room for us with no curtains. Welcome ranges from tank to JCB which every army wife has experienced, though weird or warm, it is a story to be treasured.

The soldier’s wife enters a new life with aspirations, dreams, ambitions, hope, desires and what not. The Army environment is fortunately a cheering platform that kindles the hidden talent. People around her always lend a hand whenever she falls or fails to visualize what lies within her. There are places where, there is ample room for improvement and participation. On the other hand, in remote locations where it is hard to find even a phone signal, the same ambitions might seem to be shattered but the fire neither it evaporates nor it dies, stays in dormant state and tends to trial the hopeless. 

It is the duty of the soldier’s wife to stand with her husband in every step, to be brave at every point of life and cultivate the same to her fellow families as well. Being a soldier’s wife is a challenging task besides a daughter, mother, sister and a friend. Always ready to pack and move, never gets tired of house-warming as mine crossed 12 houses in 8 years of marriage, excluding the guest room stays. She wears no medals, no uniform, works selflessly, party’s hard, prays piously, portrays herself as a brave-heart but cries like a child where duty separates the family. When there is a gamble between togetherness and aspirations, the soldier’s wife sacrifices the later, as she values the same.

There is a deep belief which is rooted strongly within her - that aspirations can be achieved well with the supporting hands when you are true to yourself and the environment. Her feet follows the soldiers’ wherever duty calls, be it a rugged mountain terrain, or a snowy altitude, or a posh lively city, or a hilly chilly milieu because it’s where her heart stays. The environment, situations, moulds the women and provides ample freedom to stand alone at any given state of affairs. There are times where she has to swallow the pain alone, long for a hug, walk in solitude, but the hope doesn’t vanish off because a soldier’s wife falls apart, but tries to put together and takes pride in saying – I am a brave-heart’s better half.

                                                                                                           By a soldier's wife,

                                                                                                           Anitha S.

 

 

Everyone Needs Someone

The wise are instructed by reason, average minds by experience,

the stupid by necessity, and the brute by instinct.

                                                            Marcus Tullius Cicero

“Everyone needs someone” – starts from crib to grave and when ponder upon, it continues to amaze and perplex mankind. For instance look at our universe, earth needs the sun to revolve around to complete a day, a month and a year. Sometimes, survival becomes traumatic when there is none to cling on and at the same time when we gaze around, everything needs a bond and everyone owes something to each other.

A child needs her mother to nurture, to help in taking her first steps, to grow with her as her need grows, want someone to hold her hands for the first day school. Wife needs her husband to love and to ascend with her when there are tides in life. A hospitalized patient would long for the company of her loved one, similarly wrinkles need a listening soul and a comforting hand for the last steps; dark needs light, sorrow needs happiness, drought needs rains, and everything goes vice-versa. 

Every step in life needs a ladder in any form. A teacher in school days, a mentor in teen days, a guide in youth days, a listener in old days, reminds of the step-ladder that lifted everyone in every single stages of life. Success, a taste of blended efforts and people which needs a continuous someone to dangle on. This also edifies survival with pride and honour that supplements the human soul with loads of confidence.

Falling in love never gets old for me. It is always fascinating to be in love and to be loved. People say that love vanishes when necessities piles up, but when you take a sneak peep, it is all about priorities. Love priorities amongst necessities, but love always resides somewhere which just needs time and togetherness to get refreshed at any point of time in life. As years pass by, the intensity of love increases with intimacy and at the end of the day all it matters is about being a right partner.

We dwell in relations most of our life time and always look forward for a home, where the heart stays. Being in a relation is required to fulfill each other’s physiological and psychological needs, and to say good-bye to solitude. Necessity knows no law and never made a good bargain. When we talk about necessity- it is not about the poor who is in need of survival, it is dealing with the need, it is about the want, the desire, the fancy, the hunger, the yearn which every soul hankers for. Be it white or black, rich or poor, man or beast, everyone needs someone. Everyone means the entire population which has you and me as well, but who cares about the “entire everyone”. It is always dealing with our near and dear, kith and kin, beloved neighbours and caring well-wishers.

It is effortless to be everyone at all times, but being the “someone” needs lot of whole heartedness with a tinge of love and affection. Finding someone among everyone is indeed not a difficult task for a needy heart which tastes triumph one day, because at all point of time in life - everyone needs someone.

                                                                                                         A Someone,

                                                                                                         Anitha S.

 

With Love.....For Coffee Lovers

Only one thing is certain about coffee....

Wherever it is grown, sold, brewed, and consumed,

there will be lively controversy, strong opinions, and good conversation.
                                                                                                            - Mark Pendergrast.

Coffee...what comes to your mind first????

The cafe day quote? A lot can happen over coffee or make it happen or the addiction next to smoking? For most of us coffee is a hot, steamy, creamy, frothy, sugary, bitterly, a metabolic stimulating wake up call, but for me the aroma of a hot steaming coffee is nothing less than a tempting kiss on a rainy beach. It wakes up the inner soul from being zombie, starts up a conversation and makes it difficult to sleep after.

There are different kinds of coffee like cappuccino, mochacinno, frappacinno, al pacino, espresso, black coffee, latte etc many are even hard to pronounce, but a good coffee just wishes for a cup and a company. Coffee is a good conversation starter; can discuss anything over coffee, be it a formal one, or an intimate one-there is always a brewing.

Coffee belongs to the family rubiaceae, discovered in the thirteenth century where the word “coffee” entered English in 1958 via Dutch “Koffie”. Coffee was introduced to India from Yemen by Baba Budan to the Hills of Chikmagalur which later extended to southern India as well. The fruit berry is oval in shape, takes different shades in its life from green, yellow, crimson to black when dried. Seeds are then roasted; subjected to physical and chemical changes and different flavours are obtained based on the degree of roasting.

Surprisingly, there is another meaning of coffee and you know what i mean. Yes, coffee is always linked with sex and scientific evidence says that caffeine is a stimulant which indirectly affects the cells by increasing epinephrine/adrenaline in the adrenal glands, as well as norepinephrine/noradrenaline hormones, which in turn stimulates cell activity, pumping action and of course arouses the vital sexual organs. Thus the blood gushes and augments the sexual pleasure and performance. A study of sexual activity also claims that a cup of steaming coffee increases the sexual stimulus in women and the potency rate in men.

Be it a dusky dawn or a snowy evening, coffee finds it way everywhere. It is nothing less than an addiction, because it controls the stimulus and creates an irritation when it does not find its company. A cup of coffee a day is not so harmful even if it conquers your mid-day nap or mid-night sleep as long as dental hygiene is adhered, because coffee breath is not as breathtaking as the coffee itself. Since all sweet things are packed with a calorie tag, coffee being a less calorific beverage, has its calorimeter varies from 4 cal to 630 cal depending on the flavouring transformation heaped with caffeine content.

Everything has a restriction in its own way and we do not stop living or enjoying life just because of calorie cognisant. If you have not tasted your first cup of coffee yet, do that sin, take a break, smell the coffee, sip a bit, rejuvenate your memory, have a good day and brew it happen.

                                                                         

                                                                                    With Love....For Coffee Lovers,

                                                                                                                         Anitha.S